“Wow. Life changing. No nonsense. Filled with fresh ideas. My daughter (adopted internationally) is 14. I’m already using Katie’s advice in day-to-day life. You’ll need a hard copy to highlight and leave on your bedstand.”

—Beth O’Malley, M.Ed, author of Lifebooks: Creating a Treasure for the Adopted Child

Foreword by Adam Pertman.

Available here.



From the book!

“In some ways you’re starting from scratch. When they were younger, it was about comfort and learning and structure. Now, it’s about preparing them for the future, for adult relationships and responsibilities, and staying connected for the long haul.” —– page 34

“The dynamic of rescuing in your relationship with your adopted teen can be powerful, nuanced and often problematic. Typically, rescuing refers to the act of saving someone (or something) from a dangerous or distressing situation. But for our purposes, it’s more than that. It is the potential dynamic in the relationship between adoptive parent and teen, in which adoptive parents tamper with or intervene in life experiences that cultivate the ability to adapt and cope with adversity.”—- page 49-50

“The path to young adulthood doesn’t begin with love. It begins with respect. When a teen tells me that they don’t respect their parents, I know that that’s where our work should begin.”—page 64

“Katie understands what adoptees and their families are facing. She’s been there. Her insights offer hope and compassion not judgment. She presents her ideas in an inviting and approachable way. She’s not looking to scapegoat or criticize, she’s committed to increasing capabilities, awareness and nurturing healthy families.”

Read her full review here!

Gayle Swift

Coach, adoptive parent, author of “ABC, Adoption and Me.”

“This is the most insightful book I’ve read about parenting adopted teens. Naftzger draws from her own experience as an adoptee and a therapist to offer parents practical tools for improving communication with their child, without ever being preachy or prescriptive. Most importantly, she honors the emotions, integrity and intellectual capacity of the adopted teen at every turn, helping parents better understand the complexity of their child’s experience.” Nicole Opper

Director/Producer, Off and Running: An American Coming of Age Story

“I loved Parenting in the Eye of the Storm. While Katie Naftzger defines her work as ‘The Adoptive Parent’s Guide to Navigating the Teen Years,’ I found it to be so very much more. Inside this book I found priceless wisdom and insight into the wounded hearts of adopted teens. The tools Ms Naftzger shares here are like a flashlight and compass for parents to light the way for their struggling adopted teen and bring them home. Well worth the investment of time!” Nancy Thomas

Author of When Love is Not Enough: A Guide to Parenting Children with Reactive Attachment Disorder

“Naftzger provides useful day-to-day insights and practical suggestions for adoptive families with teens. Her book is filled with personal accounts and situations that are both from her personal experience as well as her clinical practice. This combination of lived and professional insight in the adoption world is rare and makes this book a must-have for all adoptive families.” Iris Chin Ponte

Ph.D., President of Ponte and Chau Consulting Inc. and Director of the Henry Frost Children’s Program


I’ve also included a list of local and national organizations that I support in my life and work.  Hope it’s useful.

  • Korean American Adoptee Network KAAN’s mission is to support networking and build understanding among adoptees, adoptive families, Koreans and Korean Americans. Yearly conference in cities such as Chicago, Boston and Denver. www.kaanet.com
  • Boston Korean Adoptees is a non-profit organization focused on building a community of Korean adoptees with a connection to Korea in the greater Boston and New England area. www.bkadoptee.org
  • Jewish Children and Family Services Provides adoption resources for the community, including groups, workshops and ongoing support. www.jfcsboston.org
  • Wide Horizons for Children is a child welfare agency committed to family permanence for orphaned and at-risk children through adoption, child sponsorship, and humanitarian aid www.whfc.org
  • The Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute is a national not-for-profit organization devoted to improving adoption policy and practice. Its mission is to provide leadership that improves adoption laws, policies and practices – through sound research, education and advocacy – in order to better the lives of everyone touched by adoption. www.adoptioninstitute.org