“Wow. Life changing. No nonsense. Filled with fresh ideas. My daughter (adopted internationally) is 14. I’m already using Katie’s advice in day-to-day life. You’ll need a hard copy to highlight and leave on your bedstand.”
—Beth O’Malley, M.Ed, author of Lifebooks: Creating a Treasure for the Adopted Child
Foreword by Adam Pertman.
From the book!
“In some ways you’re starting from scratch. When they were younger, it was about comfort and learning and structure. Now, it’s about preparing them for the future, for adult relationships and responsibilities, and staying connected for the long haul.” —– page 34
“The dynamic of rescuing in your relationship with your adopted teen can be powerful, nuanced and often problematic. Typically, rescuing refers to the act of saving someone (or something) from a dangerous or distressing situation. But for our purposes, it’s more than that. It is the potential dynamic in the relationship between adoptive parent and teen, in which adoptive parents tamper with or intervene in life experiences that cultivate the ability to adapt and cope with adversity.”—- page 49-50
“The path to young adulthood doesn’t begin with love. It begins with respect. When a teen tells me that they don’t respect their parents, I know that that’s where our work should begin.”—page 64
“Katie understands what adoptees and their families are facing. She’s been there. Her insights offer hope and compassion not judgment. She presents her ideas in an inviting and approachable way. She’s not looking to scapegoat or criticize, she’s committed to increasing capabilities, awareness and nurturing healthy families.”
Read her full review here!Gayle Swift
I’ve also included a list of local and national organizations that I support in my life and work. Hope it’s useful.
- Korean American Adoptee Network KAAN’s mission is to support networking and build understanding among adoptees, adoptive families, Koreans and Korean Americans. Yearly conference in cities such as Chicago, Boston and Denver. www.kaanet.com
- Boston Korean Adoptees is a non-profit organization focused on building a community of Korean adoptees with a connection to Korea in the greater Boston and New England area. www.bkadoptee.org
- Jewish Children and Family Services Provides adoption resources for the community, including groups, workshops and ongoing support. www.jfcsboston.org
- Wide Horizons for Children is a child welfare agency committed to family permanence for orphaned and at-risk children through adoption, child sponsorship, and humanitarian aid www.whfc.org
- The Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute is a national not-for-profit organization devoted to improving adoption policy and practice. Its mission is to provide leadership that improves adoption laws, policies and practices – through sound research, education and advocacy – in order to better the lives of everyone touched by adoption. www.adoptioninstitute.org