“Trauma theorists have taught us that it is not necessarily a specific event that is traumatic so much as it is the failure of the relationship that permitted that event to occur, allowing its impact upon the victim to go unrecognized, unacknowledged, and without amends.”

Virginia Goldner Ph.D. (2014) Romantic Bonds, Binds, and Ruptures: Couples on the Brink, Psychoanalytic Dialogues:  The International Journal of Relational Perspectives, 24:4, 402-418 (p. 406)