That Defining Story

  “I was in graduate school studying social work, in a class on the use of narratives or stories in clinical work with families. In class we were asked to share  story from our life that defined us in some way. One student talked about losing her finger...

Why You Need To Be Informed About Suicide

Suicide is a serious issue in the adoption community. We’ve all been affected by it. I work with adopted adults and teens who struggle with it, it’s happening in families, to classmates, and others in the community. Some have been suicidal and made...

Feedback About Parent Groups

Four-week LOCAL group for parents of adopted teens begins this Friday, Oct. 30, 2015 from 9:45 am to 11:00 am. The ONLINE group begins this Monday, Nov 2, 2015 from 12:30 to 1:30 pm. Don’t wait for a crisis! The time to learn more is now! Book ONLINE Group Book...

What I’ve Learned From Adopted Teens

The teen years can wreak havoc on families. Understandably, so. There’s so much packed in — the emotional turmoil, surging hormones, academic pressures, expectations  — I could go on and on. The stakes are high, the future looms and every decision...

A Quote About Relational Trauma In Adoption

“Trauma theorists have taught us that it is not necessarily a specific event that is traumatic so much as it is the failure of the relationship that permitted that event to occur, allowing its impact upon the victim to go unrecognized, unacknowledged, and...

Beginnings and Endings For Adoptive Families

Beginnings and Endings When adoptees become teens, they find themselves in the midst of an ending of sorts—their childhood. But, they may also continue to grapple with another ending from their past—the dissolving of their birth or biological family. At times,...

What Your Adopted Teen Won’t Ask You

What Your Adopted Teen Won’t Ask You Don’t underestimate how important your relationship is with your adopted teen. They notice everything. They see when you don’t uphold a limit. They know when you’re overwhelmed, and at a loss. They care because they want to know...

Is This About Adoption?

Is this about adoption? It’s an important question.  After all, It’s difficult to move forward when you don’t understand why your adopted child or teen is struggling.  When adoptive parents ask me whether a situation is “normal,” what they mean is, “Is...