For most families, national holidays, such as Christmas, Hanukkah, New Year’s and other annual celebrations, are a lot of things, but one thing they’re not, is simple.  A lot comes out during holidays, doesn’t it?  Holiday time is not exempt  from the every day struggles and worries that exist for parents and families.

Our culture would lead us to believe that holidays are a chance to be the family that we couldn’t be during the rest of the year.  I’ve heard it, and said it, “Even on Christmas she still didn’t appreciate anything we did for her!”  Yes, even on Christmas.  And, what are our kids trying to tell us?  They’re trying to anchor us in reality.  The celebration is not to make up for all of the pain, disappointment, longing, that occurred during the year.

It doesn’t work to celebrate what you haven’t become, and may never will.  Your goal is to celebrate who already are, as a family, as individuals.

That’s still a lot.

Happy Holidays, everyone!