On Being Savvy, Not Sneaky

(page 78 Parenting in the Eye of the Storm: The Adoptive Parent’s Guide to Navigating the Teen Years) 10. Be savvy, not sneaky. Sometimes parents think that their teen is up to something but can’t put their finger on exactly what it is. Or they know but they...

What I’ve Learned From Adopted Teens

The teen years can wreak havoc on families. Understandably, so. There’s so much packed in — the emotional turmoil, surging hormones, academic pressures, expectations  — I could go on and on. The stakes are high, the future looms and every decision...

What Your Adopted Teen Won’t Ask You

What Your Adopted Teen Won’t Ask You Don’t underestimate how important your relationship is with your adopted teen. They notice everything. They see when you don’t uphold a limit. They know when you’re overwhelmed, and at a loss. They care because they want to know...

What does your adopted teen need from you?

When you empathize with your adopted teen, they feel less alone. When you set expectations for your adopted teen, they learn responsibility. When you empower your adopted teen, they feel their worth. And, when you do all three, they can envision their future...

What To Say To Your Adopted Teen

There are certain nuts and bolts go-to things you can say to your adopted teen that enable them to feel empowered and you to feel more confident as a parent and as an authority figure. I want to tell you some phrases that have been useful in getting through those...